Week 7


Give God Control

Here’s a counter-intuitive Truth: The best way to keep your life in control is to stop trying to control it and allow God to lead you. (Grab a cup of coffee, go sit in your favorite chair, and think about that for a while!) 

God loves you, He wants you to have an abundant life, He is all-knowing,  He’s the Creator of the universe, the One who created the intricacies of your body, the One who designed how babies are formed, the One who created life and literally gave you his breath so you could draw your first: Genesis 2:7 “Then the LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground. He breathed the breath of life into the man's nostrils, and the man became a living person.”

That same God wants to lead you!

So ponder on this; what's holding  you back from allowing your Creator to have complete control of your life?  Why do so many of us struggle with doing it God’s way? It’s not easy to surrender all to him. We each have our own reasons for struggling to let go of control, but I bet fear and pride are part of what keeps us from surrendering our all to him, and here’s why:

  • We are afraid that if we give God control of our life that He will ask us to do something that we don’t want to do 
  • He might ask us to quit doing something we are doing. 
  • We think we have it figured out and believe our way is working just fine 

That said, let’s look at what God’s Word says and learn why and how to finally let go of control. 

  • John 10:10, “I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” 

  • Romans 8:28,  "And we know that God causes everything to work together[a] for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose."

  • Psalm 46:10, “Let go of your concerns! Then you will know that I am God. I rule the nations. I rule the earth”

  • James 4:7, “Submit yourselves, then, to God”
  • Matthew 6:10, "your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven"

These verses teach us that God wants us to live life to the fullest and He will work ALL things for good. We also learn that He rules the nations and we must submit to Him. Lastly, Jesus told us that when we pray we must say (and mean) "your will be done". God makes it clear throughout the Bible that He is all knowing. Often we have a very limited view of a situation yet we think our plan is better then God's.

We talked in Week 3 about the damage that stress does to our health. When we try and control situations it can cause stress in our lives. 

"Whenever we face out-of-control situations, we tend to go to one of two extremes. For some of you, the more out-of-control your life gets, the harder you try to control it. Some of you do the exact opposite: You just give up! You have a pity party and invite yourself to it.

Both of those reactions to stress are foolish. They don’t work. Instead of being a victim or becoming hyper controlling, you need to pray the prayer of surrender.

The number one reason you’re under stress is because you’re in conflict with God. You’re trying to control things that only God can control. You can’t control your husband or your kids or your wife or your job or your future or your past or any of that stuff. The more you do it, the more you’re trying to play God, and that puts you in opposition to God. Not only are you going to lose that conflict, but you’re also going to be tired." (Rick Warren, Let Go and Know God is in Control)

Giving up control does not come easy to me. Being in charge has been a way of life for me, since I was little girl. I’ve always felt comfortable when asked to lead. I was the one who made the weekend plans for my friends.  I organized Homecoming for my high school.  I was the social chairperson of my college sorority.  I started my own business at 26.  Releasing control, even to God, did not come easy for me. I was great at asking God to be in the passenger seat and come with me wherever I went, but giving Him the keys has been more challenging. 

It wasn’t until I fully understood how much God loved me and wanted me to live abundantly that I was able to trust Him and follow His lead. I finally reached the point where I was able to pray, “God, I am so sorry that I wanted to control how you used me. I am ready to do whatever it is you have planned for my life. I want so badly for you to use me for your purpose; I want you to guide me to your calling for my life.” 

Giving God control of your life doesn’t mean you sit and do nothing, you still think, strategize, plan, interact with people and work, but you do all of this while praying for His guidance.

Do you know the song “So Good” by Ken Reynolds?  It’s an awesome song, and it begins with these simple words, “So good to know that our God is in control.” If you believe that Jesus came so that you could live more abundantly then you need to let Him control how you live and guide you down the path that leads to an abundant life. 

**Do you think you have given God control when it comes to your health? If not what can you do to let Him lead you on your journey to better health?

**What is most difficult for you to accept about the concept of God being in charge and directing you? 

**What scares you about giving God complete control? What is something you hope He wouldn’t ask you to give up and why?  

**Do you think pride or fear keeps you from relinquishing control over any part of your life? What Bible verse can help you with this? 

Something to think about 

As I write this I am in the Dominican Republic and am seeing so many in need. It’s overwhelming. People here are living in such tough circumstances, there are children without homes, those who can’t access clean drinking water.... it’s overwhelming. I can’t help but ask myself what difference, if any, can I make?

Yesterday my family gathered together with one other family to pray and talk about our upcoming weeks in the Dominican. My friend read us a story from the book “Hole in our Gospel” about some starfish.

The story is about a guy walking down the beach. He comes upon thousands of starfish that have been washed up on the shore. He sees so many starfish that are going to die and it saddens him. He knows he can’t save them all so he sits down and puts his head in his hands and thinks about the sadness of the situation. He hears some noise and when he looks up he sees someone throwing the starfish back into the water. He asks, “What are you doing, don’t you see there are thousands and thousands of starfish that have been washed up – what you are doing really isn’t going to make a difference.” The person picks up a starfish, throws it back in the water and says, “It made a difference to that one”

When we were discussing this moving story my son reminded me of a Mother Teresa quote that we had talked about before. “We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.”

We can’t turn a blind eye on those in need because we feel we can’t make a big enough difference. We might not be able to provide clean drinking water to the world but we can bring it to one. We might not be able to share the truth of the Bible with all unbelievers but we can share it with one.

Often our efforts are put to best use when we partner with existing ministries. Please take the time to look into the awesome ministries that are reaching out to those in need. Find one that resonates with you and do something. If we all throw a few starfish back into the ocean what a difference it will make!!

This is one of the most moving songs I have ever heard. It’s called “Do Something” by Matthew West. Love these lyrics - please take the time to click on this link and listen. 


Weekly Goals

Each week you will be asked to set goals. Your goals can be about faith, fitness or food (or all 3). I highly recommend that you write them down and post them on your mirror or someplace you will see them often. When setting goals make them action oriented goals, not result goals.  Stay focused on doing the next right thing and be patient with the results.